Becoming a parent is a whirlwind. Between sleepless nights, endless nappy changes, and the constant worry about whether you’re doing it "right", it can feel like your own needs no longer matter.
But here’s the truth and that's you matter!
Your well-being is vital not just for you, but for your baby and family. So let’s talk about reclaiming that oh so important “me time” as a new parent, in a way that feels realistic, guilt-free, and dare I say… enjoyable.
Why Self-Care Matters (Even More Now)
It’s tempting to believe that self-care is selfish. But think about this: can you pour from an empty cup? Taking time for yourself helps recharge your mental, emotional, and physical reserves. A happier, healthier you is a better parent, partner, and person overall.
Tips for Finding “Me Time” as a New Parent (Without the Guilt)
1. Lower the Bar
Start by ditching the notion that me time has to involve a full spa day or hours of solitude. Me time can be small, meaningful moments—like enjoying a hot cup of coffee before it goes cold or sneaking in a quick stretch during nap time.
Try this: Set a timer for 5 minutes and do something just for you—read a book, enjoy some relaxation, or even scroll guilt-free through Instagram.
2. Tag-Team It
If you have a partner, take turns being “on duty” while the other gets a break. Clear communication is key here—be upfront about when you need that downtime, and encourage your partner to do the same.
Bonus tip: Ask for the help of family or friends. Even a 30-minute walk alone can feel revolutionary.
3. Master the Art of Nap-time Hobbies
When the baby sleeps, the advice is often to “sleep too.” While that’s helpful wisdom, sometimes you need a moment to reconnect with yourself. Use this time for something that lights you up: writing, yoga, or baking that banana bread you’ve been craving.
Warning: Avoid falling into the “productive trap” of trying to clean the house. Your hobby time is sacred.
4. Rethink What Relaxation Looks Like
Self-care doesn’t have to mean face masks and bubble baths. For some, it’s a solo walk; for others, it’s binge-watching their favorite series. Find what feels good to you and lean into it.
Pro tip: Invest in wireless headphones to enjoy audiobooks or podcasts while doing chores—it’s a game changer!
5. Normalize Saying No!
Feel pressure to attend every event or host visitors constantly? It’s okay to set boundaries. Politely decline and prioritise what brings you peace.
Repeat: “My mental health is more important than pleasing everyone.”
Join a Parenting Class or Group
Sometimes, connecting with others who get it can be a form of self-care. Whether it’s baby yoga, massage classes, or a parenting support group, these spaces often double as social outlets for you. Bonus: they’re a great excuse to leave the house! (Check out the wonderful baby classes I offer)
Overcoming the Guilt Trap
Feeling bad for taking time for yourself? Remember, self-care is an investment in your family. A burnt-out parent isn’t helpful to anyone. Write this on a sticky note if you need to:
“Me time is not selfish. It’s survival.”
Sometimes, reclaiming me time is as simple as reframing how you see everyday moments. The quiet of a nighttime feed, the baby’s laughter during playtime—these can be grounding, if you pause to appreciate them.
You won’t get it perfect, and that’s okay. Reclaiming me time is about progress, not perfection. Even carving out 10 minutes a day can make a world of difference. You’re doing an incredible job—so don’t forget to take care of the person behind the superhero cape.
What are your favorite ways to sneak in me time? Share in the comments—I’d love to hear!
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